BREAK FREE from discouragement and
self-doubt ... Start living FULLY ALIVE
You're a good man. So why does it feel like you're falling short?
You're doing everything right on the surface. You show up for Mass. You pray.
You work hard to provide. You love your family and want to lead them well.
But deep down you feel like you're failing. You've got to get this right.
Your family is counting on you. God made you for more!
Like most Catholic men, you've tried to figure it out with MORE DISCIPLINE
So you push it all down and keep grinding.
You read another book, try a new prayer or accountability app, watch more Catholic videos or podcasts... all hoping it will give you the FOCUS to engage and grow in your vocation as a good husband and father -- a good Catholic man.
But the problem isn't Discipline.
Its Isolation.
No man can see his own blind spots.
No man can break free from shame ALONE.
Going to therapy sucks. Vulnerability is uncomfortable.
You don't have time for it anyway.
Discipline is important, but it fades fast. So you keep your struggles to yourself - shame, lust, impatience, distractions - afraid that if someone really knew you they'd reject you.
The truth about living as a strong Catholic man:
It's challenging and can leave a man questioning his ability.
Most men don't feel like they are living out their God-given potential.
Common struggles and roadblocks can remain hidden, but they don't simply go away.
Unhealthy coping strategies (substance abuse, addictions, porn, doom-scrolling, etc) keep men distracted and stuck.
Books, apps, and Catholic content are great, but fall short for real transformation.
We weren't meant to go it alone. We NEED brotherhood.
Like Jesus with the disciples, Catholic men need someone to walk with them EVERY DAY for accountability, support, and encouragement in their vocation.
DAILY Accountability??
Daily accompaniment is not only possible, it's a game changer! NO MAN IS AN ISLAND. We need solid, reliable relationships where we are truly seen and known - a brother to love us enough to point out areas that hold us back - patterns in our lives where we are stuck or stumbling, and then call us to more.
God made us to live a life that makes an impact on the world and brings with it peace, meaning, and joy.
God created you on purpose and for a mission!
This broken world needs you to BECOME the man God created you to be and that your family deserves:
To be a confident and competent LEADER in your home and community
To PROVIDE for their spiritual and material needs
To recognize and CONFRONT THREATS to the peace and well-being of yourself and your family
...Every man has experienced feeling like he is not good enough. This is NOT how God made you to live!
Through my training with The CatholicPsych Institute, I've learned to understand men from the lens of faith, reason, and science. This is the only way to really know someone and how to help them -- to pick up on what is holding them back and how to drive them forward.
In partnership with CatholicPsych and 15 years of personal experience running men's ministry events, I've created a mentorship program with the primary goal of building up Catholic men for the betterment of their own lives, their families, their parishes, and the greater community. The world NEEDS strong Catholic men and this program is the most effective way to form them.
Red Barn Ministries MISSION: ReFocus
A 1:1 daily mentorship experience designed for busy CATHOLIC MEN who want to live their vocation with confidence and conviction -- but don't have the time or space in their lives for traditional programs or groups.
The Details:
RBM's Mission: ReFocus is not just more Catholic content or an online support group. It is a relationship. A real brotherhood designed to fit into the busy lives of Catholic husbands and fathers who are tired of feeling like they are failing. I've been trained in psychology, anthropology, and spiritual direction by the CatholicPsych Institute. I know the struggles Catholic men are facing and the interior battle of feeling like a fraud or knowing you were made for more. This model of accompaniment provides clarity to become the husband and father God created you to be.
Signing up is not for the faint of heart. This mentorship is for real men sick of settling for less - sick of living in shame or feeling like an impostor. It is for men who are ready to confront their own struggles and barriers for real transformation. My goal is for you to step more firmly into your role as a God-fearing husband and father who leads without hesitation.
I invest wholeheartedly into the success of each man I have the honor to work with. If you show up consistently in this model, a solid and trusting relationship becomes the foundation for deep interior work and personal growth.
And if you hate it, I'll give you your money back!
Commit to two weeks of active mentorship and if you still think it isn't a good fit, you will receive a full refund.
How it works:
#1
Daily Conversations - Direct, ongoing contact that keeps you honest, encouraged, and on track in a way that fits into your life.
#2
What's Really Going On - A spiritually and psychologically sound process that helps you address barriers, grow in virtue, and silence the noise.
#3
Strategic Accountability - Never face your battles alone. I walk with you daily as you work through what we uncover.
#4
Authentically Catholic - Rooted in St John Paul II's philosophy of Personalism. Firmly and foundationally Catholic.
And it's designed with flexibility for busy husbands and fathers, so you can grow without neglecting your responsibilities.
What else is included:
Access to The CatholicPsych Integrated App:
Guided content and tools that blend modern psychology with Catholic spirituality
Catholic Mindfulness Virtual Retreat, exercises, prayers, live sessions with mentors, and an active community.
Several courses and Catholic resources all designed to help you grow and find more peace in your life
Mentorship takes place through recorded voice messages over a secure, private app. You maintain access to all past recordings so you can revisit insights and track progress.
Who am I?
Sam Todzia
I'm a Catholic raising seven awesome children with my smokin-hot wife, Kristin. I'm an enthusiastic carnivore and a patriotic American. I love to skip rocks and play wiffle ball with my kids. We live on an old farm in Connecticut where we home-school our kids.
I've run multiple small businesses while trying to live out my vocation fully. I know what it feels like to juggle long hours, endless responsibilities, and the desire to be truly present at home.
I also know what it feels like to fail -- to think I just need to pray harder, work longer, or stay more disciplined. All that did was leave me burned out and spiritually flat. Learning to combine the best of therapy, coaching, and spiritual direction in a daily brotherhood was the game changer. And now I'm passionate to help other men experience the same.
I work as a Certified Mentor partnered with the CatholicPsych Institute (www.catholicpsych.com). CPI is creating a new Catholic standard of mental health by providing services and resources based on the integration of faithful Catholic anthropology with sound psychological science to help people become who God created them to be.
I have a Master's in Theology from Holy Apostles College and Seminary in Cromwell, CT. I've run men's ministry events and conferences for the past 15 years. Additionally, I've worked in marriage ministries, and consistently work as a youth minister, speaker, and retreat leader. I would love an opportunity to speak at your parish, school, or conference. Inquiries can be made at redbarnministries.org
Next Step...
If you are done feeling like life should be more than it is...
If you are sick of living ashamed, distracted, and discouraged...
If you are ready for an all-in approach to confront what holds you back and keeps you stuck...
Sign up for a FREE Consultation Call today
Stop feeling like you're falling short. Become the MAN God created you to be!
RED BARN MINISTRIES - MISSION REFOCUS
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